We usually divide human relationships into 2 categories.
Interpersonal and work-related.
That is, we set an imaginary boundary between the human relationships that develop inside and outside work.
We associate with people and have to carry out our daily routine in full cooperation.
There are times when things get out of control and we try to find out whose fault it is.
Who did not do their job properly and who neglected some important detail.
It’s always somebody’s fault and we have to find them and target them.
The worst is when a mistake or situation is repeated.
That’s where I’m going to focus more, trying to bring your thinking back around again.
In defining the boundaries of human relationships, I should point out that each individual human being has boundaries.
Don’t get your mind on the personal boundaries that we sometimes typically say we’ve crossed.
There are also the limits that we cannot cross or that one of our partners cannot cross.
“Our partner” can be found in our work environment but also in our family circle.
A partner at this time I call any person you have to work with for some reason.
So suppose that during the day a mistake happens to us and we notice it.
At this particular time in this particular situation, we are not alone.
We work with a team of people to realise the goal of the day.
The goal of the day can be anything.
For example. a successful outcome in our workplace.
One sale, one proper workflow.
Proper organization among family members to make a home work properly.
This can mean a thousand and one things. Each of you can make up your own mind what you want.
And somewhere in the middle of it all, the mistake happens… the same mistake that happened again and again, by the same person…
You’re pale…
And the delirium begins…
-How many times have I told you?
-Why don’t you do what we have said?
-I have shown it repeatedly…
– You’ve done it before!
And there… put on the brakes and take it or else…
Do you realize what you just said?
Do you realize what you’re doing?
No?
I’ll tell you what…
You systematically ask a person to do something that he does not do!
What don’t you understand?
Now please tell me whose fault it is.
The one who doesn’t do what you think he should do…
Or you who can’t accept that he won’t and insist he won’t?
What is objectively right and understandable for you may be subjectively unknown or optional for your “partner”.
Nothing is implied!
It never occurred to you?
You didn’t get away with it, because traditionally you think right and you’re always right.
Your way is the right way and it is one way.
Did you ask your partner?
What does he think is right? Why doesn’t it follow your logic? Why every time?
Are you sure he’s doing something wrong, or is he just doing it another way?
Have you thought about it?
Have you confirmed that you operate in the same way?
Or are you just trying to impose your own method for the flow of things on a person?
Have you confirmed that your partner can do what you ask him/her to do, according to his/her own way of thinking?
Can’t he? Does what you are asking exceed his own limits?
Is it “up to there”?
“Up to there” of course means nothing derogatory to anyone.
That’s simply where his own limits are reached.
In another “there” your limits are reached… don’t judge and don’t be disappointed.
Just accept it and find the happy medium in your collaboration.
Contact and fill in your limits.
Perhaps the boundaries of one end where the boundaries of the other begin.
If you really have the same common goal, which you both want, then you will find a happy medium and each of you will take on the responsibilities that you can best carry out.
There’s no reason to be nervous.
The only thing you have to do is to understand the limits.
This will enable you to manage the situation much better and create a new work plan.
Cooperation, communication and a common goal are very important.
If all your “partners” are willing to do all this, then you will surely find your common path. 😉
